Strike 1:Quarter Life Crisis

I suspect I’m in trouble and I’m in denial. Lots of it. According to society,that is.

In my defense, it is quarter life crisis.

Last Christmas eve, I hosted friends for dinner and we voiced all these things we would have achieved by this year’s Christmas eve. Well I can’t remember saying anything other than promising to make more female friends. Before you quiz my reasons, the ratio of male to female at the party was 3:1 and the guys really complained about it.

The year is ending: 32 days left. To be frank, I had NO  list of things to accomplish in 2010. All I wanted was to be ‘Young’: And I have: It’s been a ‘Young Year’ for me. As I sit here, taking account of what of my plans, I have met my goals. And consequences to pay heavily for.

I have successfully avoided any relations or associations that would have me labelled as ‘Mzee ni wewe’  (What does that mean?).

I had 2 close friends get married in the last 2weekends and all I did was seek road trips and drinkups plans to run out of town. In the end, I never turned up for any of the weddings despite numerous calls and texts in which I promised I would show up at the service then reception then evening party then BLANK.

4 of my friends have had babies in the last 2 months. I keep promising to go see their latest additions in vain. I’m always too ‘hangover’ed to go anywhere near screaming kids.

I have my thesis presentation due in few weeks time and I am way behind schedule. I have no time.

My kitchen sink drainage broke down in February,I am yet to fix it.

As  people in my age group are getting married,engaged,delivering babies, I’m either firing up for or nursing a hangover, planning random road trips to avoid weddings, changing friends to younger groups who are not getting married,engaged,delivering babies…

I’m not sure for how long I will running from reality.

My mum keeps calling to complain about how lost I am from home (Consequences of being ‘Young’) and ask if anyone stressing me (Any ONE?). My partner got me into a conversation about wife material and hinted he is dying to have children. I told he him it was the alcohol talking, turned out I was the one on alcohol. My younger friends have started getting babies, rings on their fingers..Will I move to the teen age now? (Dare you say COUGAR!) *Sigh*

According to society, I should be acquiring wife material traits (What’s that anyway?), quit clubbing and looking for highs, wake up on Saturday morning to do general cleaning,(read laundry and house), start wearing pink or light green night dresses to bed instead of perfume, wear wigs, start talking of the biological clock (Huh?) et al.

In my defense, I’m a late bloomer. And I missed that class. Maybe. Sorta. Kinda.

Skinny Jeans: The death of quickies?

I had to wake up very early this morning (6:30am) just to unlock the car for cleaning then rush right back into bed for a few more minutes of sleep. To perform this task, I grabbed a pair of pants that was closest to my bed and which happened to be a pair skinny jeans. It took me 3minutes to wear them, 5minutes to do my task and 10 minutes to remove them. In the end,I wondered whether wearing the skinny jeans was worth me losing sleep.

As I jumped up and down trying to free myself from the shackles of my skinny’s, I  wondered if there were victims of fashion out there who in pursuit of happiness had missed out the pleasures of life? I imagined myself losing  10 minutes to take off my pants in the heat of the moment,talk about shooting yourself in the foot. Is there a man that patient anyway?

I admit skinny jeans are very flattering to the curves and in the way they lift up the bum, right, but to what end?

I believe there are men and women out there who have lost a chance to be happy, pleasured spontaneously because they are in skinny jeans. I included men because they are quickly trying to fit them skinny’s too nowadays.

Skinny jeans are any obstacles stopping you from enjoying your life and its pleasures, anything that is holding you back. A bad habit you need to kick because it either slows down your success path or stalls it all together. Your time management, alcoholic tendencies, failure to save for better days?

‘Skinny jeans’ could kill your ambition, your ability to dream,let alone breathe.

Today try wearing something free that will make your day easier.Pick up your diary and draw up a time plan or to-do list. Take out an investment plan. Set yourself free to fly and explore.

Failure to Launch…

Let’s be honest for a second here.

How many times have you ever started a project, a diet plan, fitness plan, savings plan, mortgage plan and didn’t go far? Any particular reasons why it didn’t happen or work out?

More often than not,we find all the reasons not to hit the road. It is amazing how far and wide we’d research on the cons of a new idea we are on about. To the extent of  inviting  friends over for dinner or drinks so you can hang out this new idea and  publicly stone it to death. We ‘google’ reviews of the car, phone,investment type and I bet you,most of the reviews we will rememeber are the negative bashing ones that make us change our minds.

Ever floated an idea and the first thing you hear is.. ‘No! That’s not a good idea.I have a friend who..’ or ‘I know a guy who..’ and that conversation leaves you filled with doubts tumbling in your head, making and breaking alliances like socks in a dryer without cling free. By the way ever noticed how we never know this nameless  ’Guy’ or ‘friend’ personally?

I have been making several changes throughout 2010 and boy,did I hear LAME reasons and ‘HATERations’ why not to everytime I attempted them. I emphasize lame because they were as lame as a duck. Not the metaphorical lame duck, either, but a real duck that was actually lame. Maybe from stepping on a land mine or something.

One time I was about to cross thousands of miles for love I hadn’t experienced in years and was quite the nervous calf. 2days before I left, I get a text message at 2 am from a close friend and it reads, ‘Don’t go to ‘Utopia’. I had a nightmare that you will get pregnant. And my dreams are never wrong’.. Short of the story, I did travel though I am yet to find out if humans have a different gestation period other than the regular 9months.

So what am I on about?

Many dreams or goals that fail or succeed depend entirely on us. We sabotage our dreams even before anyone out there lays their hands on it.  We claim it’s too cold,too hot to exercise. The market is too unstable to invest. We are too young or too old to do something. What would people think? We don’t have time to do that. So and so said it’s not a good idea and they are the ‘expert’. Watch your words because they become your actions, your habit, your character..

I acknowledge that is not easy to go through with a plan,project without the support of family,friends even haters. You will soon find that they will run with it if they see you stand up for your dream. Do it for yourself, not anyone else.

Believe in YOUR dreams because dreams do come true. Stand up for YOUR dreams. Protect YOUR dreams  like you would something that you love. Remember to be realistic, little by little and you will get there.

Take the path less traveled. Go where there is no path and leave a trail. Have a fighting spirit. Dust yourself and try again when you fall. Remember to laugh it off too. Avoid self sabotage.

After all sooner or later you get to the bridge and there you will either cross it or burn it.