Have you ever read studies/ heard theories on how humans do their selection for mating? Me too.
Did that help you understand why the hot rod of a guy runs off with a woman as ugly as treasure or the video vixen hangs onto Shrek like he was Blair Underwood? Me neither.
So how exactly do human select a suitable mate? We have met people who make our jaws drop and we would catch a grenade for but wait till you see who they settle for. You’ll be forgiven for all insults you hurled in regret as you dust off the grenade debris.
Funny how the only time you rejoice is when your ex hooks up with Ugly duckling so it seems like you’ve won. Funny how we criticize how one will cheat with the ugly duckling when they’ve got a trophy spouse back in the cage.
The other day I went for my usual rugby Saturday hangout. I’m a Quins Queen as usual after the game; everyone heads to the waterhole to quench their thirst. Don’t be fooled though, it’s a meat market out there too. Everyone’s strutting their stuff; chests, breasts, butts, foreheads, fingers in all shapes and sizes. Yes, everything is out there like a garage sale: One man’s trash is another’s treasure.
At this point I must say, the unfortunate thing about bodies is you only get the first impression. You’ll judge and be judged by it. Not like clothes where you can always wear something different and hope to bump into that hot guy/woman looking all sexy second time round. Na, you’ve only got one shot.
Back to rugby Saturday, my wing woman and I stand at the outside bar catching up and taking roll call of who’s with it. A bull approaches the watering hole and asks for a plastic tumbler from the bar at which point I turn subconsciously.
Bull: Do you think this tumbler is clean?
Me: I hope so. I don’t know.
Bull: Is that what how you’ll be talking to our children?
(I blushed. Yes I did. I mean the bull was tall, dark and handsome. He had a body that suggested he’s played rugby in the distant past. He sounded polished and eloquent. )
Me: Huh? (Bull walks away.)
I continue our talk with wingwoman as we watch the bull walk back to his boys. They weren’t an eyeful like he ‘appeared’ to be. We quickly take note that he is unaccompanied and probably, on the prowl.
Few minutes later, he returns to the bar for a few more minutes of chat then heads back to his pack. As he resumes his position in the circle fo boys, a female approaches him. She extends an extra-time hug as if to mark territory.
At this point, my wingwoman and I exchange nods. Yes, she is the woman behind all the fine in the man. The expression on our faces said it all. Our excuses for him ranged from they must’ve been childhood friends to ‘she must be the proverbial cousin visiting from shags’ and eventually we gave up as they put their arms around each other smiling happily. In conclusion, she must have been pretty smart with a beautiful personality. That’s all I’m giving. Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.
In reality the ugly duckling is the underdog; we always question why the people we see as handsome, beautiful always end up with the ugly duckling. The ugly duckling is said to be undeserving and not qualified to be with the peacock but don’t they deserve the good things in life too?
Who will cry for the Ugly Duckling?
And the blog has finally landed. I had wondered. #ThatIsAll
I was still going through the excuses.
In my experience, the ugly duckling come out tops.
Princesses are exceptionally good at all things touching on looking good. They are the flowers that the bees will hover around and feed from. But the bees don’t build their hives on flowers. They go for trees…not quite as pretty…but they are solid and reliable…and may produce the pretty flowers in due time.
Likewise, ugly ducklings have depth. They can run a house hold and hold down a career. They cultivate multiple interests and provide stimulating conversations. And in the long run…you really need someone you can talk to.
My 2 cents
Well put: food for thought.
Interesting post… & interesting perspective @buggz79 gives here… I’d say I share his 2 cents on the ugly duckling.
True, if you are looking at a long term deal, then it has to run deeper than just face value. The love keeps you going until the conversation is back up and when the love is down, the conversation keeps you going till the love is back up.